Every time a rape incident occurs which is brutal, people in the society are filled with rage. It should be this way and no other way. But, have we thought about why do we become angry when it is severe trauma caused to a life?
There are women in India who get sexually assaulted every three seconds and physically beaten every ten seconds. Worldwide, girls have been raised by their parents with restrictions. We have been living in a society that cannot trust the actions of its members. Is this the society you’ve dreamt?
It is true that men also experience abuse. How many times have we talked about it? Or are we waiting for it to become rape culture for men too because certainly women do not have it any other way?
I was filled with anger and rage when I read about another brutal rape. But, I didn’t have the energy as a woman to talk about it before this.
Dear Society and our government – We women are tired of wanting to feel safe. It is from our birth our parents become vigilant creatures who cannot celebrate the birth of a daughter. Instead, our parents enlisted rules – do not step out after 7 pm, wear clothes so that men don't get provoked, don’t speak with my brother’s friends, look down when you walk, and be conscious if you gain weight. We have grown up believing we are a piece of meat that will be preyed upon forever. We can be of any age, it doesn’t matter. We just need to have a vagina.
People are talking about consent. People are discussing mental health. You know what is bothering me the most – when an ordinary girl told her parents that I don’t like the way my cousin looks at me, nobody cared. That is what is alarming. This is where we needed to STOP. We should have acted then, look where we are now.
Mothers who shut their daughters, fathers who beat their girls, teachers who ignore their students’ plea, and cousins, uncles, and friends who take advantage of children – They are all at fault. We as a society have failed. Two days to the news of Hatharas girl dying – everyone started posting on social media.
Is our anger only relevant to show on social media platforms? Are protests the only way to deal with this?
We elected people who failed. We as a society have failed. Some of us know that we don’t obey rules and norms, then we curse the government for poor execution. I am not sure who is to blame here – men, government, women, or maybe – ALL OF US. We are equally at fault.
We waited for a Nirbhaya and Hathras case to speak against something which has been happening silently over the years.
An Unsafe Daughter of India