Are you healing or torturing yourself?

It isn’t that people only resist change.

It isn’t that people around us don’t want to indulge into self- care/self-love and healing.

Don’t let anyone fool you that healing is a choice. It is a tough and a hard choice.

Healing is a journey, not a destination.

Healing is you taking multiple paths - meeting your demons on this journey, hiding from pain, holding your anger, witnessing yourself hit bottom low and hoping to rise back, it doesn’t stop here.

Healing means you take breaks, make mistakes and get back to starting point again, learning more, unlearning what you know so far, fight with others and fight with yourself for what you see hurts.

People don’t resist change, healing or working for their betterment.

We all get scared with the kind of commitment healing demands and sometimes, we take breaks.

Healing is a journey to travel many paths and find the path that leads you to the next one.

We all want to be better versions of ourselves, some for ourselves and some for others; healing is effort.

A tiring; meaningful effort!

Healing is a difficult choice

Adulting - Journey or Destination?

Is adulting about the journey, or is it about the destination of this journey?

Is it a journey without a well-crafted mental destination?

It’s a path with many directions, and the journey becomes about choosing which direction to step onto. Different directions lead to different outcomes: liked/disliked, desired/undesired.

Adulting comes with choices to make and decisions to ponder. For every choice that is opted for, a part of oneself awakens. This part comes with questions, statements, and beliefs—some harsh, a few real, and many unwanted.

It’s this vulnerable part, so scared of and for us, that needs love, care, and compassion. Positive remarks make us feel confident. But for all the criticism this part carries, we belittle ourselves.

Adulting is about finding a voice for this part—a part shaped by stories and narratives from parents, caregivers, teachers, morals, and society, but not necessarily from ourselves.

Love this part inside of you, conditioned to carry shame.

Lessen your burden by holding some of the baggage from this part. Notice how adulting doesn’t become a destined journey, but rather a way to love yourself in any direction.

It’s definitely not about the destination.

The journey becomes so meaningful when there’s no definite place to be.

Letter to the Therapist with Harmonious Compatibility

Dear Therapist,

I want to express my deep gratitude for creating a safe space for me through therapy. Whether it was in-person, when I entered your room with a heavy heart, fearing you might reject me, or when you transitioned to another country, never making me feel abandoned, I have journeyed with you even before virtual platforms became necessary.

You have always believed in your therapeutic approach, even when I questioned it. You never let my doubts affect you negatively, though I'm aware there must have been challenges for you as well.

Shifting perspectives and wearing different lenses wasn't easy, but your consistent effort and insightful guidance allowed me to transition smoothly. I have learned that anger is not inherently wrong; it can be beautiful, and affection can be seen in new ways. This has been a wondrous and enlightening learning experience.

While you reflected what was missing in my life, you never pushed me against others on this journey. You made mistakes and apologized, and that honesty and authenticity, combined with my own vulnerability, made it less intimidating. Together, we pieced fragments of myself and others, holding them together like strings, sometimes moving forward and sometimes taking a step back—a balanced way to navigate life.

The freedom to disengage from certain roles and engage with them as needed has been liberating and healing for my core. Thank you for being there for me and demonstrating that our relationship is dynamic, always focused on my well-being.

It wouldn't be an overstatement to say that your self-disclosure as a therapist humanized you and allowed me to appreciate vulnerability.

The dance we engage in during therapy sessions, two wounded individuals navigating the path, is becoming smoother, with fewer pitfalls to pull us down.

Thank you for showing me that the sun still shines, even when there's a dark storm in front of me.

With sincere gratitude,

A Client

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